Friday, February 28, 2014

Why did we choose Foster care??

What a surprised it was for us to learn that folks are VERY open with their opinion about foster care. In the 2 months that we have been foster parents I have heard so many excuses about why folks couldn't do it.
It' like when they understand who our addition to the family is and what means they do one of 2 things. either completely ignore the child and pretend they didn't see an extra child. or they come up with an excuse why THEY could never do it.
 
 
Yes we can't save the world but the bible clearly teaches in James 1 26&27    Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
 
Yes, it's probably out of your comfort zone.. I know it was out of my comfort zone for a long time! I didn't feel qualified, I make lots of mistakes with my biological children, We don't make enough money to support more children. We even used the excuse that God doesn't call everyone to help the orphans and widows. That some of us are just called to be prayer warriors for the families that ARE caring for the orphans.. However if this were so wouldn't James 1:26&27 state that Pure and faultless religion is this: that SOME of you in the church look after the orphans and widows...
But that's not what it says at all!!! God sees caring for the orphans and widows as Pure and faultless...  And when God sees something as pure and faultless how can you go wrong by doing it?????
 
which brings up the next question of why would anyone try to discourage us from opening our home to foster care... They say, your hearts will be broken when children go back to their parents,
 
they say: but those children come with lots of problems and needs, are you sure that you can handle the special needs of these children???
 
Yes, our hearts will be broken: one Bible verse comes to mind specifically : James 1:1-9 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. ...
Why would we run from something that will draw our hearts closer to Jesus.
And in our first 2 months of Foster Care our hearts have been broken many times... Many days I wished for my life back, when the only baby in our home was a well adjusted 4 yr old. And then I would fall to my knees with guilt and give it all to Jesus!  When I think of how many times I cried out to Jesus not only on my behalf but on the behalf of a poor hurting child, I wouldn't trade those moments of sweet, sweet presence of the Lord for anything in the world! the refining of our souls happens best when we have no more strength left to draw on.
 
 
Yes Children that have been dealt a hard blow, beyond their control, in life, will have issues...  But Jesus teaches:
He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’ Matthew 25:45
'The least of these'  who are they???
But we do know this... If Jesus came to town and needed a place to stay for a few days.. needed food and a bed, wouldn't we all be rushing to offer our home?? our best bed and we would cook the best food!! we would probably even spend more money on that week's groceries...
But Jesus clearly tells his disciples in Matthew 25:45 that if they didn't look after the least of these they didn't look after him...
 
And no we can NOT handle any of those special needs that these children might have..  But Jesus can!!!
 
The book of James shows that even back then the human race was all about self gain and materialism; James 2:1-4 My brothers and sisters, believers in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ must not show favoritism. Suppose a man comes into your meeting wearing a gold ring and fine clothes, and a poor man in filthy old clothes also comes in. If you show special attention to the man wearing fine clothes and say, “Here’s a good seat for you,” but say to the poor man, “You stand there” or “Sit on the floor by my feet,” have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?
 
Jesus loves 'the least of these' every bit as much as he loves our own children, our nieces, our nephews, US...  Why is our 'comfort', our well being and our money more important to us than the life of someone that Jesus loves??
 
One of My biggest fears was how our decision to open our homes to foster children would affect our biological children... How would they react if a child that we had grown to love would be reunified with their biological parents?? to this day this hasn't happened yet so I don't have any experience on how it will affect our family but I can tell you this.. God is Bigger than my fears!! we have never pretended to our biological children that the foster child is ours, We pray for healing for foster child's family, We pray that Jesus would come to that family and revival would come to their house. Because ultimately, Foster Care isn't something that we do because we solely want to adopt a child, It isn't something that we do because we want to be someone important or for any form of human glory. Foster Care is about Jesus, it's about saying "here am I Lord, Use me".
 
So yes, Prayer warriors are needed, very needed, And I am ever so thankful for all my friends that pray for us and lift our family up to Jesus.... But I challenge everyone of you to add this to the end of every prayer you pray for families that are adopting and fostering,
"Here am I Lord use me"
And then listen for God's voice, and believe that he will be there with  every step of the way!
 
RuthAnn
 
 
 
 

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

I said it Out Loud and it Felt Good

I said something out loud tonight that I have thought quietly to myself probably a thousand times since I became a mother..... 
 I said, at 7:30pm, "You kids are going to bed, I AM TIRED OF BEING A PARENT NOW... "  
I waited expecting the sky to start falling, and the earth to start shaking at my horrible confession that was supposed to be a private thought...
  But a crazy thing happened, the world kept turning, And my offspring looked at me like I had lost my last marble,
 and then they looked at Dad to see what he was going to do about Mom...
Dad quietly got up and started getting pajamas ready....
 
And suddenly I realized how good it felt to be honest with my family... I admitted what I was thinking and they all then knew how I felt.... and by 8:00pm all were in bed and I could switch into wife mode and chill on the couch with my feet propped up...  sharing a few laughs with my husband over the day's events...
Was it selfish of me?? probably... But honesty is also a good virtue.........
 
 
It has been a long winter already, we are all tired of being cooped up in the house together.... when the temperatures do rise into the 20s we make sure to head outside.. we don't get real far through the deep snow but we do get out...
 
 
Miss Haddy writing her name in the snow.. (she's at that stage where she signs everything)
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 Miss Kristina watching the sunset with our Golden Doodle, Latte
 
And I am happy to announce that with all the 'Staying in' we have done there are plenty of new items on the website including a complete new collection.   
 
Introducing the POLLYANNA COLLECTION  !!! 
 
 
 
Summer Stripes  this is the first dress in this series.
 
 
 
And of course I have added a few items to the Chevron Collection for Easter:
 
 
 
Until next time,
RuthAnn Zimmerman- www.haddygrace.com

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Valentine's Day Skeleton... and Fun Dip

 
Our Valentines Day Preparations...
 
You know that feeling of groping around in the dark trying to find the stairway after you fell asleep on the couch and its 1 am.??
  You're desperately trying to find your bed!!
 That happened to me the other night except in the middle of all that stumbling around in the dark I found a glowing skeleton hanging on the door!!!!
I gasped in shock sure that I was hallucinating a scene from some crime show my husband had been watching...
 
Turns out that the Skeleton shirt that I found at a consignment store was glow in the dark!!!
(I bought the shirt and added the felt heart for my son's Valentines day party at school.)
 My advice.. stay away from crime scenes, Skeleton shirts, and falling asleep on the couch.
 
You will need all the sleep you can get to try and figure out  your middle scholar. read on.....
 
 
I love pinterest for Valentine's Day card ideas!!!
There's no reason to buy ready made cards when there are so many cute DIY ideas on pinterest..  That's my philosophy..
 After pinning a bunch of ideas I allowed my Children to choose what they wanted to do..
 
Here is what Staci choose;  Cute huh???
 
 
And Mitchell,  (I may have influenced this one,
Bought the mustache mold and made chocolate mustaches too.)
 
 
 
And what is cuter than a kiss from a certain 4 year old???
 
 
However, A certain middle school child informed me that she didn't want to do something 'Different' this year.. she just wanted to do a Valentine's Day card like everyone else!!
 For a moment I felt like I couldn't breath... (exaggerating).
But I took a deep breath (or 2 or 3) and dug down deep and replied, "That's ok, we can buy you what ever cards you want."
 
And the next day as I put the desired Fun Dip Valentines into my Shopping cart I know I felt some of my creative juices shrivel up and die..
 
 
Then told myself, 'Its ok, Middle School is Hard, and ordinary Valentine's Day cards are completely ok too!!
 
 
In the meantime I am taking this 4 yr old and helping her make as many Valentine's Day Cards as she wants!!!!  because all too soon she will be going on 13 and will choose FUN DIP over Mamma's Home made cards!!
 
 
 
 
Happy Valentine's Day!!!!
 
 
RuthAnn Zimmerman